Consider either of these two scenarios. One, he’s finally popped the question, and presented you with his mother or grandmother’s engagement ring. Or two, you are about to pop the question to her, and you are expected to give her the engagement ring that has been in your family for generations. It’s a family tradition. It’s a family heirloom. Either way it’s ugly, tired, not your style, or worn through.
You may want to tread carefully before immediately absconding with said heirloom engagement ring to your favorite jeweler for a makeover.
Respecting everyone’s feelings. Mother-in-laws can make formidable enemies. If it’s her ring you want to alter and she is still alive, you may want to run the idea past her first. She may also have inherited the ring and may sympathize fully. On the other hand, she may have selected it. Do your homework first.
The state of the stone and the setting. At some stage all heirloom engagement rings need repair work. Check that the stone or stones are worth saving. A worn setting is not safe for keeping stones in place. Maybe this could be your excuse for a little work.
Your dream engagement ring may not look anything like the heirloom. Perhaps there could be a compromise? Perhaps you could have an eternity ring instead that meets your engagement ring dreams?
Your wedding ring expectations. Is this heirloom piece going to accommodate your wedding ring? Can it be adjusted slightly?
Solutions and Excuses.
Wrong color metal. Perhaps the setting is not the sort of metal you wear, or are allergic to?
Too frail to wear on a daily basis. Worn settings and prongs will lose stones eventually. If you have to have work done, maybe it could be subtle, or not so subtle. Explain to the family member that the engagement ring needs work before starting.
Too valuable to wear on a daily basis. This is a good excuse for never wearing the ring. Store it somewhere safe and only wear it to family events. Select a great wedding ring to wear instead.
Too valuable to accept. This may or may not be true. If you use this excuse be leery of turning up with a ring down the track bigger and more expensive than what you returned.
You would like to incorporate other family heirlooms. You have two families, perhaps there is something sentimental from the other side that should be melded in as well?
The engagement ring is not compatible with your lifestyle. This is an excellent excuse and shows respect for the heirloom piece.
The engagement ring is too big or small.
The Jeweler. If you should manage to get the heirloom to a jeweler, be sure to use one that you trust. The jeweler should be accustomed to working with estate and vintage pieces, or custom work. Be sure you have a clear idea as to what is being done and the cost before agreeing to the work.
Alternatively, there are jewelry companies who create engagement rings without the center stone, for example Tacori. Perhaps the family stone could be reset?
Heirloom engagement rings are a sign of tradition, respect, and regard. They should always be accepted in the spirit that they are given. Be gracious and sensitive, and remember that your engagement ring is not your marriage.
Author Resource:-
Andy Moquin has spent 20 years in the jewelry industry with much of his experience in polished diamonds, engagement rings , wedding rings and custom jewelry design. He is an accomplished business consultant and is available for advice on topics such as marketing, advertising, merchandising and business turnarounds. Article Provided By: Published-Articles.com Article Directory
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